Grown Children Should Not Eat Up Your Savings

Baby Boomers,"the sandwich generation" may be caring for parents and returning children
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When baby boomers welcome their children back to the nest, it should be done without sacrificing their own financial future.

Forget the empty nest. Many baby boomers are finding themselves nearing retirement with a very full house. In a troubled economy and difficult job market, more and more young adults are turning to their parents for help and housing.

"The AARP calls them the 'boomerang generation,' the ones that leave home and then come back," says Phyllis Hill Slater of the AARP New York Executive Council.

Even if they do not physically return to the nest, National Endowment for Financial Education CEO Ted Beck says they are likely to turn to the "bank of mom and dad" to make ends meet.

"We found six out of 10 adult children are actually receiving some sort of financial support from their parents, and that can range from housing to helping pay for insurance, to some money every month to help make the bills go through," says Beck.

While a majority of the parents surveyed said they give this help willingly, not all of them can afford it. About 26 percent said they are incurring debt in order to help their kids and 7 percent are delaying retirement.

"That's a red flag that concerns us, because we want to make sure that parents are actually financially able to provide the support that they seem to be willing to do," says Beck.

His advice is two-fold. First, parents should take a frank look at their own finances to see what kind of help they realistically can and cannot afford to provide.

Next, parents should have an equally frank conversation with their child about finances, as well as their expectations and limitations.

"Are you expecting to be paid back if you provide some financial support? If somebody is going to move back, then how long are they going to stay? How long does it realistically look for both sides? So they are very clear about it," says Beck. "You want to make rational decisions, not emotional decisions."

Finally, parents should keep stark reality in mind. If they jeopardize their retirement savings to help support their adult children, those children may be forced to support the parents later in life, should the elders' money run out.

"The AARP has a motto. Pay yourself first, take care of yourself first," says Slater. "A 20-year-old will survive. There are no loans for retirement."

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Posted December 12, 2012
Well said!

by DIANNE, NY
Posted December 11, 2012
We have spent our lives taking care of the children, loving them to our own detriment, at times. We are doing them a favor by allowing them to move back. If they do move back, then they can continue to be adults however they will need to pay the price to live in my home and then they will not disrupt my peace in the process which means if you don't like how I live and if you cna't cohabit with me then this is not the place for you. I had given up myself once before, I will not do it again.

by CAMILLA.ADAMS24
Posted December 07, 2012
It sounds like all those who commented think it's a good idea to protect children from their own sometimes self destructive impulses - while protecting ourselves. Is that what you're thinking?

by DIANNE, NY
Posted December 01, 2012
An ADULT who moves back with their parent(s) needs to remain an adult and not revert back to being a child with little or no responsibility. They should be contributing and if that means working at McDonalds for minimum wage (it's honest work)-than so be it. Maybe that'll inspire and motivate them to strive for independence and maintain their self esteem.

by HOME HELPERS HOMECARE, IL
Posted March 14, 2012
I totally agree. Too many Baby Boomers have made life too easy for their children who expect to be taken care of. I met a man in an 'assisted living facility' (nice homeless shelter) who has spent everything to help his son who, guess what? Abandoned him.

The best thing is to put all money into a Trust where only a particular sum a month can be received. In this way one can't bankrupt themselves helping their son/daughter launch that buggy whip factory.

by JAYE, JAMAICA
Posted September 28, 2011
Most of the mijority of teens will waste there money on thing that they dont need trruth is they are bored

by ZORIJAHLYSSA, CT
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